Tuesday, August 17, 2010

So, I just had to write this down so that I can remember and chuckle about it years down the road. :-)

My biggest pet peeve of the month?

When someone who knows our story learns that I'm pregnant and says excitedly, "Oh, congratulations!" And then, just as quickly, their expression changes to a furrowed brow and they add, "I sure hope this one works out...(likes it's a teenage dating relationship)...(awkward pause as they stare at my belly)...oh, I'm sure this one will work out..." (as if they're reassuring themselves)...(another awkward pause and then I change the subject).

The first time it happened, I though it was a really strange thing to say...and then these awkward interactions started occurring frequently!

I know it's sincere, but if a family goes through the tragedy of losing their teenage son, you don't say, "Oh, I hope your other children don't die, too"!

People are funny. :-) It makes me think about all of the dumb things I've said to someone after they've gone through something tragic....hmmm....


  1. That is a rough thing to say...yike! Sorry you have to listen to that. We've had some interesting ones about Ruby too, but I try to remind myself that people usually mean well, they just don't know what to say.


  2. That made me smile.....I was remembering a guy I knew in high school, who lost his father in Iraq. He was a friend of a friends, and I went to the funeral, and after an akward moment at the funeral I remember trying to think of something comforting to say, and I shook his hand and said....."I am just a phone call away." I remember that was one of the dumbest most odd things I had ever said to someone. We both stared at each other with the exact same thought...."why would he call me?" It's true though, people don't usually think ahead of time, and when they are there face to face and suddenly feel like they should say something, it usually never comes out right.

  3. I agree with "not all who wonder are lost"! I can definitely say the dumbest things without thinking. When all I really want to is to comfort someone and don't know how to. If that makes any sense at all? I am just so happy for you and Shaun! I can't wait to meet your little precious girl!!